Everyone has suffered from some kind of pain that needs healing, whether it’s mental, physical, emotional or sexual, so you are not alone. Whether you have lost a loved one, endure chronic pain and suffering or have been the victim of abuse, you have the power to overcome your own painful experiences so that you can give yourself unconditional love and experience intimate relationships. The Healing course has a personal connection for me, as I've spent my life learning to heal myself from abuse and pain so that I can help others. I have also lost my soulmate to cancer, but each of these life events drives me to find ways to repair and restore my faith in finding love, peace and happiness. The exercises I share in the course and companion e-book are a combination of my own unique techniques and ones from other sources that have worked for me and my clients. My goal as a Love Coach is to help people find their way back to love again and feel the physical and emotional pleasure we all deserve to improve the quality of our lives.

The Healing course lays the groundwork for understanding the healing process from loss, toxic relationships, sexual dysfunction, trauma, disease, accidents, addiction, sexual assault and sexual harassment.

This course follows SMART learning objectives (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-Phased) and AASECT Core Knowledge Areas (CKA) and training.

By the end of this course, students will understand and be able to answer these questions:

1. By the end of the first hour of instruction, participants should be able to identify at least two (2) healing solutions to manage fear from the Coronavirus and loss of a loved one. (CKA: c,e,h,n)

2. By the end of part 2, participants should be able to understand the five (5) stages of grief. (CKA: c,n,o)

3. By the end of part 4, participants should be able to distinguish between sexual problems with diabetic men versus sexual problems with diabetic women. (CKA: e,h,i)

4. By the end of part 6, participants should be able to differentiate between the most common male and female sexual dysfunctions. (CKA: c,d,g,h)

5. By the end of part 7 participants should be able to identify at least (3) different signs of a narcissist or psychopath. (CKA: b,j)

6. By the end of part 8, participants should be able to define some behavioral impacts of physical and psychological abuse. (CKA: j,l)

7. By the end of part 8, participants should understand at least 3 impacts of addiction on relationships. (CKA: i,l)

8. By the end of part 9, participants should be able to understand and communicate how to establish physical, emotional and sexual boundaries. (CKA: b,c,e,f,m,n,o)

Healing from Toxic Relationships

Toxic relationships damage our ability to thrive and allow ourselves the full spectrum of joy and pleasure. Whether it’s a domestic abuse situation that’s held us back or a co-dependent relationship that went on way too long, we feel trapped and paralyzed to move forward in the way that would benefit us the most. In this part of the course I cover all the bad habits we find ourselves in, like pandering to narcissists by “people pleasing” or staying in a marriage long after its expiration date. I have some archival videos here about how to get over a break up, and ways to process the grief that you are experiencing so that you can recover more quickly and most importantly, not repeat that toxic pattern! Not every relationship is meant to last, and some unions or friendships are sent to us to learn a lesson. It’s my job as a Love Coach to make sure that people recognize their own patterns and break the cycle of toxicity.

Healing from Pain

Pain is an obstacle to intimacy because it can feel isolating, but ironically sometimes intimacy and sex can help to heal pain by creating positive feelings that translate into a mind-body connection. Looking at pain from a different prospective is one of life’s challenges that can make you stronger. In this section, my exercises include water therapy, humor therapy, animal therapy, journaling and many more easy-to-accomplish efforts that relieve the stress associated with pain such as visualizing the many aspects of your pain and breaking it down with your mind. I also offer practical ways to talk to others about your pain, which can add a whole other level of tension as you navigate family and friends while being distracted or debilitated. As someone who has suffered from chronic pain for over 20 years, I know how powerful it is to perceive pain as a gift!

Healing from Being Overwhelmed

I often hear from clients that they feel “overwhelmed,” and to me, overwhelm is a sign that you’ve lost control of your life in some important way. Experiencing a loss or dealing with trauma or disability can leave you feeling overwhelmed as you move through a range of emotions. Sadness, anger, disbelief, confusion, shock, depression – these are all natural reactions to loss or abuse, but they can leave us exhausted, and unable to get on with our lives. In this section I explore the notion that these emotions are part of the healing process and that sharing them with family and friends is helpful, so that they too understand what you’re going through and hopefully empathize. When you are overwhelmed by the stresses of life and burdens of others, treat yourself kindly by setting boundaries and saying ‘No” to things that you will resent. Say “Yes” to things that will make you feel safe, happy and valued. Resist the urge to numb your emotions with drugs or alcohol or to punish yourself for your feelings of overwhelm. Practice self-care instead, focusing on your health and wellbeing.

Healing from Sexual Dysfunction

Sexual dysfunction manifests in many ways for men and women. Medical issues like diabetes, hormonal deficiency like low testosterone, medication incompatibilities, pain from arthritis, and emotional issues such as depression all affect sexual performance. I’ve helped men recover from erectile dysfunction by repairing their communication with their partners, and I’ve also seen women with vaginismus find relief through a combination of talk therapy and pelvic floor therapy. As a coach, it’s vital to refer to a medical doctor first to discover any medical conditions. Love coaching can work alongside treatment, which can be more holistically effective. This section in the healing course outlines all these topics, laying out the medical options to consider and suggesting counseling tactics to try for yourself or with your clients. Exercises for premature ejaculation, ED and many other common sexual dysfunctions empower people with these every day issues to feel like they’re not alone and there are plenty of ways to heal and enjoy sex to the fullest again.