You probably know somebody who is a people-pleaser - the person who always wants your opinion on their outfit, asks for your input on where to go out Friday night, and will do anything you ask them to do. You see them start to struggle, but they never want to let you down and continually find themselves in situations they don't like
People-pleasers may:
Apologize for things that need no apology
Chronically second-guess themselves in the decision-making process
Go along with plans they disagree with
Refuse to hold their ground when the other person is persuasively argumentative
Make unnecessary concessions when the other is pushy
Pretend to agree even when they don’t
People-pleasers squander energy by fretting about what other people are thinking. They often don’t know what they want or like because they have always been focused on the other person. They fear confrontation and would rather bite their tongue than say anything to rock the boat, ultimately building a life of resentment and unexpressed emotions.
We are taught that being nice and thinking about other people’s feelings are important. It is important, and wanting to please people is a lovely characteristic to have, but when you start to bend over backwards to such an extent that it impacts your own emotions, then it becomes a harmful problem.
People pleasers:
are addicted to approval
put the needs of others before their own
are nice to everyone
have a difficult time standing up for themselves
never say how they feel
experience chronic guilt and fear of hurting others
prefer to conform with others, even if they internally disagree
As a people pleaser, you have a compulsive need to be liked by everyone. You feel icky when people don't like you, and you'll go to any length to get someone to praise or approve of you. You are scared of offending people, worry if they like you, and not completely comfortable with yourself. You can’t say no to others, voice out your opinions and emotions, and assert what you want. You're leading a life of servitude and emotional suffering.
If you have been struggling with the disease to please syndrome, this is the course for you. It will give you the tools and necessary information that can help you overcome your addiction to approval. When you understand why you behave the way you do, you are in a better position to know how to free yourself of people-pleasing. You will know the mindsets you need to catch in yourself and change. You can be a nice person without being a people pleaser.
The course includes:
Why it’s important to overcome people pleasing?
What being a people-pleaser is really costing you?
What’s wrong with being a nice person?
The origins of people-pleasing behavior
How to stop pleasing your parents
Overcoming fear of confrontation
Overcoming fear of hurting other people
How do we get hooked on approval?
How to prioritize yourself?
Why is authenticity important?
How to be yourself during communication?
Overcoming fear of rejection
How to stop seeking approval?
Getting rid of toxic people-pleasing
Identifying what you want and expressing it
